Okay, what happened? I had breakfast, did chores, dragged myself out for a walk, let myself stop three times to look for a long audio cable before getting home, having lunch followed by hanging the washing & now it's nearly teatime ?
Unless I want to still be up at 03:00 I'd better cancel my afternoon plans.
This, this is why I'm mostly frustrated. I need to lock my chores up & only let them out once a week or something but it always feels like herding cats. There's always one that's urgent or needs doing before tomorrow, plus I don't fancy tackling seven days of washing up. Where would I put the second half of it?

Interview for promotion tomorrow. Queue the internal screaming. Very glad one of the two likes me because I guarantee you I will fuck this up somehow, I do NOT do well placed on the spot. Time to over-prepare and then forget everything...

My partner has undiag ADHD and anxiety and we have been talking through experiences both so I (AuDHD) can better understand his experience and also verbalize my own (as in, oh, I would be able to make accommodations if this was someone else, so why don't I accommodate for myself?)

https://neurodivergentinsights.com/autistic-anxiety/

We are discussing this article, like what is the difference between being anxious, autistic anxiety, being overwhelmed, or experiencing dread... etc.

> Dr. Jonathan Dalton discusses the distinction between dread and anxiety. Anxiety typically involves worries about what might happen, such as fretting over how you will be perceived at a social event or what might or might not occur there. In contrast, dread is about the certainty of discomfort, such as knowing an event will be overstimulating and involve extensive small talk.

Hi. I'm terrified.

I've been trying to make my own space on the web for years. And I've been stuck. Badly.

But today is my birthday. And I refuse to let another year pass without putting something—anything—out there.

So here it is in all its messy glory. My first post on my barely-there #website: https://fromemily.com/hi-im-terrified/

It's not great. But it's okay...enough.

And I hope it means something to someone.

@actuallyautistic

Get in! I have managed to keep on top of the laundry for a WHOLE WEEK.

Posting another #Introduction - plz boost far and/or wide!

#French-Born, #London-Based CompSci Teacher/Education PhD

#Education #Research #Phd, #BCS #Computing #Teacher #CCT
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I live with #MultipleSclerosis
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#Research topics:
- #EdAI / #AIEd - #LLMs in #Education
- #CriticalStudies of #EdTech
- #Neurodiversity in #Education, and the experience of ND educators.

I’ve been trying my best to put on a brave, positive, face/mask. But it becomes clear I need to accept that I’m having a lot of trouble with the house selling and especially the apartment rental process. I assume it’s my AuDHD, but I need regularity and consistency, and the current state is anything but. It’s hard also to be told I was denied or failed repeatedly, and getting my hopes up many times.

Hopefully I’m near end game so I can find my stability and peace again.

Hope this might help someone else in some small way.

@actuallyautistic @actuallyadhd #ActuallyAutistic #ActuallyADHD #MovingResidences

Aujourd'hui, l'enfant a choisi de faire son jour off (une fois par mois, elle a le droit a un joker où elle ne va pas à l'école mais elle doit rattraper le travail qui a été fait). Le soir, la neuropsy a vu une poulette qui n'avait pas la fatigue liée à sa journée scolaire. Résultat : elle était surprise de son agitation extrême. Je lui ai parlé des difficultés pour les devoirs et du temps très important qu'on passe dessus. Elle m'a dit qu'effectivement elle n'avait jamais pensé à un TDAH mais que c'est fort possible
#ActuallyAutisticFR et finalement sûrement #ActuallyADHD

@actuallyautistic A few weeks in, I'm starting to see: this is and will be a long journey requiring me to understand myself more deeply than ever before. If I do not, I will remain as disabled as I am now. When I have a small success, identifying a (seemingly) new trigger, I am now seeing it as an invitation to let something go.

Letting go is not easy but it is easier than confrontation. There will certainly be times to confront but I will choose those; confrontation requires more energy and has a higher cost.

Sensory unmasking is brutal. It is almost like learning how to ride a bike all over again but without training wheels. But I am learning.

I plan to travel to the UK this summer. Does anyone has combined autism / ADHD printouts that fit a sunflower lanyard? #ActuallyAutistic #ActuallyADHD #AuDHD

Been playing on https://www.erionmud.com and am thoroughly enjoying the crafting system. Having the option to just work uninterrupted, in familiar patterns, appeals to my #ActuallyAutistic need for structure and familiarity, while when my #ActuallyADHD side wants novelty, I can go wander the realm and see what pops up. And if I need something, I can make it myself, darn it! LOL If you try it out and need some pointers, I'm usually up there as Tamryn, so feel free to ask me anything.

***Hashtags Here:***
#ActuallyAuDHD #MUDs #MUD #Gaming #MultiUserDungeon #Neurodivergent

I'm probably tempting fate but after 7 days of severe brain fog — so severe that for a few days I felt like a passenger trapped in a me sized, remote controlled cyborg.

Rethinking my allergic reaction as it's still going strong (gave up my 1 a day Matcha(=caffeine) habit just over a week ago). Though as I type this, it dawns that this might be the cause of my severe brain fog / disembodiment.

It's good to finally be getting back to feeling human or wherever I'm supposed to be.

It feels good to finally have enough dice / spoons / focus / energy / dilithium / micro-blackholes to interact with the fediverse again.

Question for other #ActuallyAutistic people and also #ActuallyADHD:

[Long post due to lots of context]

When there is a change to my routines - even if it’s an expected change that has been planned for days or even months in advance - I can feel something like “anticipation” until I’m back to familiar routines. This is also true when starting a new routine until it feels familiar.

The “anticipation” is strange as it manifests as if it’s anxiety with all the physical signs, but the word “anxiety” does NOT feel right to me at all.

I know it is definitely related to “uncertainty”. And that’s true even when I have a very good idea of how the change in routine will pan out (i.e. I have low levels of uncertainty, not always high). So this also excludes catastrophising MOST of the time because I already know nothing awful will happen.

If I can’t predict how the change of routine will unfold then I find my brain tries to calculate ALL the possible outcomes - good, bad or indifferent - and try to prepare for as many of them as possible. This response seems learned; I’ve been in situations when I’ve had an unexpected routine change in the past and been unprepared which led to awful outcomes. After those events, I have often reflected and seen that it might have been possible to predict what happened and prepare to a reasonable degree. So that’s what I do now. If this is catastrophising, then it ALSO includes the BEST possible outcomes and everything in between. So it’s not straight forward, anxiety-driven catastrophising which is focused only on the negative.

I really wanted to learn more about autistic “anticipation” as it relates to routine changes, or even “anxiety” in response to routine changes (even though anxiety doesn’t sound like the right word for me), but I couldn’t find much online.

So, do any of you have any good online resources that could help me understand myself better when it comes to this? (I may want to share a resource with a neuro-affirming therapist in future so an online resource would be great.) Could be blogs, articles, videos, etc. I’m not great with podcasts unless there is a full transcript.

Or, do you have any personal insights that you could share with me that might help me understand this better?

Key to note here: I can understand the anticipation or anxiety if something potentially bad might happen (classic anxiety / catastrophising) but I ALSO feel this way when I KNOW the routine change should bring about normal life things, just slightly differently. I.e. nothing bad and there are even benefits to the routine change! So this is the part I am most stuck on and wanting to change… if it’s even possible.

Phew! Long post. Please feel free to ask any clarifying questions. Alexithymia is common for us autistics so this question might not be easy to understand, and that’s okay

#AskingAutistics @actuallyautistic

True ADHD story…

For a good hour I was working on consolidating the tabs in my browser.

I closed lots of them. But when I finished there were actually more than when I began.

People always say ADHD is a superpower. It some ways it is. But in other ways it’s a lot of WTF moments.

Presenting the finest spoof ad I’ve ever made:

RIP Steve Jobs. This design Advertising?? poking fun at?? object impermanence is for you.

-Allēna

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Some people are so _poisonous_ that not even understanding them is an effective _antidote_.

How does one recognize whether or not what one experienced was narcissistic abuse?

It's not like one can ask the hypothetical abuser. They will deny it. Is learning about the patterns of narcissistic abuse and subsequently recognizing how they show up in one's lived experience the best one can do?

I find that a very unsatisfactory conclusion but it does seem like the best one can do. I probably lived in a relationship with at least narcissistic abuse patterns. And the unsolvable ambiguity of it all bothers me.

I feel this must be a deeply autistic experience: the disbelief when people actually try to convince you that they didn't mean what they said. And I'm not talking subtext, I'm talking about the grammatical meaning of their verbatim words and sentences.

And then you ask them to clarify and through a convoluted sequence of justifications they end up at "see? And this is why I couldn't possibly have meant this!".

Like wat? Why did you say/write it then in the first place? So fucking confusing. But maybe the explanation really is that autistic people choose their words much more carefully. It's certainly my lived experience.

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