Limitations & Radical Mercy

This piece was originally written in 2023. As I continue to grow and learn through Radical acceptance, I have discovered another facet of healing—Radical Mercy. I have updated the piece to expand on this theme and its place in fostering resilience and acceptance.

Each one of us experiences times of hitting our limit, and these limits can be in the form of physical limits, mental limits, or manufactured limiting beliefs. Understanding the difference between limiting beliefs and actual physical or mental limitations is vital to thriving. We have the power within us to shift limiting beliefs, whereas substantial physical or psychological impediments require radical acceptance and mercy.

Limiting Beliefs

Limiting beliefs arise from the stories we tell ourselves. These typically begin in childhood during the impressionable age of three to eight. Something as simple as being told by a teacher that you are slow or sloppy creates tension within the self. For a child, a moment of questioning arises. “Am I sloppy? I must be since an adult – an authority figure whom I have been told is smarter, more knowledgeable (or insert any word consistent with “better than”); therefore, it must be so, and I am sloppy.”

Here lies the danger. The “I” is not sloppy. Maybe the “I” actions were negligent, but that is momentary behavior that the “I” can change if presented with options or explanations.

Our language imparts the need for more understanding and discernment of the moment’s truth. We must distinguish the doing from the doer. We are not our thoughts or actions, but we are responsible for our thoughts and actions. One who is established in discernment understands the ground of being.

We, as experiencers of emotions, thoughts, and actions, need to be aware of the effect of our emotions, ideas, and actions on ourselves and others. Through these unmindful actions, we unwittingly impose limiting beliefs on ourselves and others.

Mindful Discernment

Shifting limiting beliefs is rooted in mindful discernment. Having a sense that something is not right, not quite so, is the first step in shedding attachments, in this case, attachment to outworn beliefs and lifestyle patterns. This altering of one’s course is usually a gradual transformation; it requires skillful effort, such as mindful attention and great patience.

Altering Perspective

For example, as a child, I was told I could not run far due to activity-induced asthma, as I seemed to get winded quickly on occasion. What I heard was, “Kristen cannot run.” Allowing this thought pattern to solidify in my being, I did not think otherwise until I was 27, a year and a half after giving birth to my son; I decided to start jogging to regain my strength and stamina. I thought, what is the worst thing that could happen? I get out of breath, take a break, and walk. So that’s what I did. On my first jog, I was ridiculously out of breath; my chest was on fire. I stopped and focused on breathing, willing the breath to find its natural rhythm. It did, and I walked the rest of the way, mindful of my breath and body.

I did not pass out, and I did not have any adverse reactions, so I persevered. Releasing my attachment to any outcome, I focused on putting one foot in front of the other until I could not. After a few months, I was able to jog a full mile. I celebrated the achievement as I had, through discernment, discovered “Kristen can run.”

I ran for the next ten years. Running became a passion as it allowed freedom from thoughts and actions. I found a sense of pure being in the sound of my soles slap, slap, slapping the pavement, a peacefulness I had only experienced in yoga or meditation.

Gracious Acceptance

Thus, overcoming this one limiting belief opened the doors to remove the mental obstacles I had placed in my way throughout my life; the question begged to be asked, “What other self-made challenge could I overcome? The answer was deeply resonant- I could overcome any limiting belief I had constructed: this can be distilled down to attachment to the fruits of any idea, thought, or action. Bear in mind, this did not mean I could necessarily run a marathon. Realistically, I needed to understand the difference between limiting beliefs and actual physical limitations. My knees would not take running a marathon. Over the 10 years I ran, I accrued much damage to joints, a stress fracture, and a broken bone in my foot. My physical limitation prevented me from running a marathon, but it was not a limiting belief.

For this, gracious acceptance is required. My yoga practice cultivated the understanding I needed for this acceptance.

Please note that by yoga practice, I do not mean only the asanas or poses, as is the prevalent understanding of yoga in the US. I am indicating the fullness of the embodiment of yogic principles and philosophy, of which the postures are a part of the much more comprehensive practice.

Again, much like shifting limiting beliefs, accepting physical or psychological limitations takes time and patience. Rallying against the natural flow of our life path or playing the victim of our circumstances only creates more suffering. Adjusting one’s view to the present moment allows for space where we may plant the seeds of acceptance. When we align ourselves with the present moment, we can no longer be distracted by the “what-ifs” of the past or ensnared in anxiety over the unmanifest future. We begin to nurture the seeds of acceptance with loving kindness and patience.

“In the space we create through present-moment awareness, infinity awaits.”

KMS

Physical Limitations

As an example, the chronic migraines I experience are physical limitations. Additionally, for the last three years, I have developed other symptoms that can impair my ability to speak or think clearly, drive, or partake in activities that bring me great joy, such as hiking and yoga (asana). Prevalent muscle weakness, joint pain, neuropathy, and confusion, such as forgetting where I am or what I am doing, can be dangerous in specific settings. My awareness of my limitations is keen.

Of course, at the onset, these symptoms were frightening and frustrating. Experiencing migraine from a very young age, I was potentially in a more desirable space to adjust to the additional limitations. Still, canceling plans and adapting from an active lifestyle to one spent mainly on the couch caused anger, resentment, fear, and sadness to arise. I had to sit with my emotions and make friends with the pain and anxiety to overcome dwelling on what I could not do. I needed to invite the sadness into my being and experience it fully to taste its essence to mourn what I perceived as a loss.

Loss

Losses can be viewed as destruction; we create new ideas, paths, and a new view of our predicaments through mindful destruction. In my case, it was not the joys of my past that were destroyed but my attachment to how things “must” be. It is not “I love hiking; therefore, I will always be a hiker.” I enjoy the sense of aliveness, freedom, and connection with nature that hiking affords my spirit. This experience and this sense of space can manifest through other pursuits. The destruction of one path provides a clearer view of a new path that is untrodden and full of pure potentiality. This potential is available to us in every moment. In the space we create through present-moment awareness, infinity awaits.

Radical Mercy

What allowed this space to manifest? Radical Mercy. Acceptance is acknowledging and embracing reality as it is without trying to resit or change it. Meanwhile, mercy goes beyond acceptance by introducing kindness, grace, and relief. While acceptance says, “This is how they are,” mercy says, “Even though this is reality, I choose compassion over condemnation.”

Radical mercy is not passive; it is grace in action, a powerful force that compels individuals to respond to suffering with compassion and understanding. It is a transformative act that defies conventional notions of justice and fairness, challenging societal norms that often prioritize punishment over healing. It is mercy given without conditions, disrupting cycles of judgment and resentment, creating space for reconciliation and growth. This profound willingness to extend grace to ourselves is a radical act, especially in the face of limitations. Mercy is required to release feelings of disillusionment or failure to meet one’s own expectations of self.

Having mercy for myself has transformed the experience of chronic illness, not as something to endure but as a way to invite grace, patience, and even healing. The bitterness and weight of perceived failure of what now cannot be can be suffocating, but mercy has softened this, allowing space for self-compassion. It is a radical act to say, “I am worthy of kindness, even from myself.” This shift does not change my illness, but provides a new path of experiencing life itself.

“I will hold myself to a standard of grace, not perfection.”

KMS

I now have a deeper appreciation for the cycles of nature as I see my path reflected in its seasons, as I experienced a time of blossoming and unfolding, as well as times of mourning and destruction. The two sides of the coin, non-duality expressed in each moment, for life implies death, and vice versa.

As I align myself with what my body, mind, and spirit are capable of in each moment, I sense the blossoming of the seeds of acceptance, spreading peaceful contentment through my sacred vessel, allowing appreciation of the nuance and texture of the tapestry of the universe and the mystery of its weaving.

Please note that if you suffer from limitations causing you physical or mental anguish, I recommend talking with a trusted professional.
Start with your primary care doctor if you are still figuring out where to ask for help. For mental health assistance: https://jwww.samhsa.gov/

I look forward to continuing to explore the concept of radical mercy over the next few weeks, delving deeper into its nuances and exploring the idea beyond the self. This journey involves examining how radical mercy can be harnessed as a powerful social tool that fosters understanding and improves communication between individuals and communities. Promoting empathy and compassion in our interactions can create an environment where differences are celebrated rather than feared. Through the application of radical mercy, we can bridge divides, dismantle prejudices, and ultimately cultivate a more harmonious society where dialogue thrives and connections are strengthened.

Wishing heartfelt blessings for a serene and beautiful holy weekend to everyone celebrating.

Unlocking Inner Peace: The Benefits of Reiki Nature Meditation

Unlocking inner peace begins with embracing the transformative power of nature meditation, a practice that nurtures the mind, body, and spirit while fostering a deep connection to the natural world. This serene approach allows individuals to quiet the chaos of daily life and encourages mindfulness and self-awareness, inviting a sense of tranquility that permeates every aspect of existence. Immersing in the sights and sounds of nature, whether through a gentle breeze rustling the leaves or the soothing rhythm of waves crashing on the shore, helps dissolve the stresses and anxieties that often overshadow our lives. This meditative journey enables clarity, rejuvenates our energies, and cultivates a profound appreciation for the beauty that surrounds us, guiding us toward harmony and balance within ourselves.

Nature meditation offers numerous benefits for well-being, creating a holistic approach to mental, physical, and spiritual health. By visualizing a tranquil forest and tapping into nature’s healing qualities, practitioners can experience deep relaxation, heightened clarity, and emotional equilibrium that enhance their everyday lives. The meditation fosters a sense of interconnectedness with all living beings, reminding individuals of their place in the greater ecosystem while promoting the release of stagnant energy that hinders personal development.

Benefits of Nature Meditation:

• Enhanced Mindfulness: Promotes present-moment awareness, reducing distractions and fostering focus.
• Stress Reduction: Helps dissolve anxiety and stress, leading to a calmer state of mind.
• Emotional Balance: Cultivates emotional equilibrium, improving mood and resilience.
• Deep Relaxation: Facilitates profound relaxation, rejuvenating mental and physical energies.
• Clarity and Insight: Encourages clarity of thought and increased self-awareness.
• Interconnectedness: Strengthens the sense of connection to all living beings and the environment.
• Energy Rejuvenation: Releases stagnant energy, promoting personal development and growth.
• Increased Gratitude: Nurtures appreciation for nature and the beauty of the surroundings.
• Spiritual Nourishment: Revitalizes the spirit and nourishes the soul, enhancing overall well-being.
• Empowerment: Empowers individuals to access inner wisdom and creativity for navigating challenges.

Reiki Infused Meditation

Engaging with the Reiki energy throughout the meditation revitalizes the spirit, calms the mind, and nourishes the soul, facilitating a transformative journey of self-discovery. This sacred practice invites participants to cultivate gratitude for the natural world, nurturing a deeper appreciation for the profound beauty surrounding them. Ultimately, it is a powerful tool for personal growth and a sense of peace, empowering individuals to access their inner wisdom and creativity and enabling them to navigate life’s challenges with greater resilience and grace.

Benefits of Reiki Infused Nature Meditation:

• Deep Energetic Healing: Promotes physical and emotional healing through Reiki energy.
• Enhanced Relaxation: Deepens relaxation and calms the mind, allowing for greater peace.
• Increased Mindfulness: Heightens awareness and presence during meditation, fostering a deeper connection to the moment.
• Emotional Release: Facilitates the release of emotional blocks and promotes emotional balance.
• Spiritual Growth: Encourages personal and spiritual development through connection with nature and Reiki energy.
• Boosted Intuition: Enhances intuitive abilities, allowing for better decision-making and insight.
• Stress Relief: Reduces stress and anxiety, promoting overall mental well-being.
• Support for Self-Discovery: Aids in exploring the self and uncovering inner wisdom.
• Holistic Well-being: Supports the alignment of mental, physical, and spiritual health.
• Connection with Nature: Strengthens the bond with the natural world, nurturing appreciation and gratitude.

Embracing Healing Practices

Nature meditation and its enhanced practice through Reiki offer profound pathways to cultivating inner peace and well-being. By immersing ourselves in the tranquility of the natural world, we not only reduce stress and enhance mindfulness but also nurture an essential connection to our environment and ourselves. The multiple benefits—emotional balance to spiritual growth—empower us to navigate life’s challenges with clarity and resilience. As we embrace these practices, we unlock the potential for personal transformation, fostering a harmonious existence that celebrates the beauty around us and within us. Whether seeking deep relaxation, emotional equilibrium, or spiritual nourishment, nature meditation, and Reiki create a sacred space for healing, reflection, and growth, guiding us toward a more balanced and fulfilling life.

Start your journey of healing and transformation now with a free guided Reiki Infused Nature meditation, where you can immerse yourself in the soothing embrace of the natural world. This unique experience combines the gentle energy of Reiki with the calming visualization of nature, helping you to relax deeply and reconnect with your inner self. Allow the peaceful ambiance to wash over you as you let go of stress and invite harmony into your life, paving the way for growth and renewal. Embrace this opportunity to rejuvenate your spirit and discover the power of nature in your personal transformation.